Ah, motherhood. Its my favorite job, the best gift I’ve ever been given, and the reason for the mini pep talks I give myself a dozen times per day. If you are a parent you know just how stressful it can be and how hard it is to steal a moment for yourself. Many of us are working
extremely busy, with everyday parent worries and countless external stressors that we face each day. All of the little ways you used to treat yourself seem like a distant memory, replaced by diaper changes, chasing a toddler, playing dress up, running to a sport or activity function and a never-ending list of new responsibilities. Things that you thought were tiring in your previous pre-child life now don't even hold a candle to the real level of exhaustion that being a parent brings on. It brings a whole new meaning to the word stamina to keep up with the responsibilities of parent life. Studies have shown that our relationship with our kids is largely dependent on our ability to manage stress, so it's in our best interest to take care of ourselves by effectively managing stress.
As demanding and overwhelming as parenting can be, putting your own needs on the back burner isn’t the answer! As a result of constant stress, your body builds up resistance and tolerance to coexist with continuous stressors. This extended release of stress hormones has
adverse effects on your body, lowering your immunity defenses and making you more susceptible to illness. The final burnout stage represents your body’s inability to cope with continuously high demands. After all, it’s not natural to feel like you are in a “fight or flight
response” which mobilizes you to take action and avoid danger. It's perfectly healthy when there is a real emergency (like a bear chase haha), but if your body is constantly getting stress signals for everyday issues, you’ll burnout over time.
It's much easier to be a good parent when you are balanced on the inside. Decompressing with self-care acts will create harmony and balance in the mind & body. You grow more resilient, calm and capable. If you don't feel fully nourished you can’t give from a place of love & overflow, you often end of giving, even though you feel depleted and you resent whomever you are giving to. So let's make sure you get what YOU need so you can serve, love & live from a place of fulfillment and authenticity, not lack and exhaustion.
QUICK WAYS TO DESTRESS:
Have you ever have those days that you feel like everyone needs something from you and you want to just break down? That is a rhetorical question you are a parent of course you have these days!